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12/2018 Anal Games and Fisting

While the heterosexual man, despite the fear of losing his masculinity, can no longer resist the charms of anal play, we gays have been up to our elbows in it for decades. Especially when it comes to fisting.

Fisting and hygiene

Of course, I had to smile when I even found „Crisco“ in a Swiss domina studio, which apparently is now also used in heterosexual butts. Personally, I prefer simple lubricants from sealable bottles for hygienic reasons.

While playing with all other parts of the body offers the possibility to jump flexibly from one to the other (e.g. pinching the nipples a bit, then fondling the testicles, pulling the foreskin at the same time and combining this with a kiss), the anal world invites to exclusive and long-term exploration.

There are also practical reasons for this because everyone knows that such games cause a mess, and even something as simple as drinking from a glass of water with slippery gloves can mutate into a challenge.

So when someone of you is lying in front of you in a sling, relaxed, clean, and ready, and you have put on your gloves and greased them, you literally want to sink into the other’s butt and just concentrate on it.

As a rule, the experienced fisting lover prefers to meet you at eye level, jumps into the sling right in front of you after the friendly handshake, and looks forward to the many millions of emotions that will be triggered here.

Fisting – how to do it right

A good example is Martin (35) – he visits me about twice a year for an extended fisting session. Every time he comes, he wants to grab all the toys I have laid out for him. But I cover all the dildos, plugs, etc. with a cloth, because somehow they always look a little threatening – especially the big ones. What’s the point of letting someone think about it when they can just enjoy?

After the session, it’s always nice to show off the equipment and demonstrate how far it’s gone into your partner’s body.

Each fisting session begins with a few initial thrusts with the fingers. Due to the sphincter muscle, the outer area of the anus is the most likely to cause pain.

Don’t worry, though: The sphincter also houses many nerves that are just as pleasurable. To open the butt slowly, I simply increase the number of fingers and keep a close eye on Martin’s reactions. Circular movements are ideal for opening the butt.

Of course, there are also many who would like to experience this, but are built much too tightly and could only get the smallest hands inside.

Some gay men already know this from simple penis penetrations. By the way: Playing with the cock of the fisting partner usually leads to a contraction of the sphincter, so it should be avoided in the „opening phase“.

Fisting Martin’s „inner values“

After ten minutes I can fully explore Martin’s „inner values“. Now, true to the motto „less is often more,“ I have to proceed slowly and subtly. I just tense my hand a little or jerk my wrist and like to comment on it. Martin shakes and moans a lot and becomes very submissive.

Remember: Even if your partner is cool to you at the beginning, when your forearm is inside his body, you have a lot of power at that moment. And that’s wonderful. All of the toys that have been provided are now used in the order of size.

There are chains with balls that present a whole new set of challenges to the sphincter – when pulling out, that is! There are plugs that can be inflated to football size and vibrate and of course there’s the classic dildo.

Anything that presents a positive challenge to my lying victim gets me going.

But I find release with my hand inside another’s body. I want to be very close to my partner. As already mentioned, the anus contracts in this last moment and I feel every fiber of its inner life.

After that, I provide some verbal action, leading to an intense climax that is fuelled by this extensive groundwork.

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