Dogplay, ponyplay… all describe role-playing games in which the submissive part „becomes“ the animal. One of the biggest prejudices about petplay is that it is essentially sexual acts in animal costumes. This is not necessarily the case (even in my experience). Of course, sexual elements can be integrated very well, but it’s not always a necessary component, or it can just feel good without an orgasm having to take place.
Petplay and Dogplay – Between excitement and prejudices
I think this prejudice still comes from the sex education of the 70’s, namely „Schulmädchenreport“, where in every episode a stupid teacher wanted to jump out of the closet as a stupid stallion. Of course, this game invites mockery and ridicule, but we BDSM’ers should be relaxed about it because, in comparison, every little movement of vanilla sex has been the victim of 100 times more jokes.
Ponyplay is, by the way, the most requested animal play in BDSM when talking about petplay, but the expression is usually characterized by much more sensitivity and attention to detail than the previously mentioned example in the schoolgirl report. My personal feeling is that ponyplay is more prevalent among both heterosexual and homosexual women, while dogplay is more prevalent among homosexual men. But I have no proof because this is just a snapshot. What do you think? Write to me at email@example.com.
My experience with petplay
I’ve found that dogplay doesn’t always need a masquerade to work. Sometimes I catch myself or my other vanilla sex partners purring like a cat when cuddling or grunting like a pig with pleasure when fucking hard. The more freedom you give yourself, the more you can enjoy each number.
I really like many game variations, but of course I also adapt to my clients. With my faithful Olaf, I can enjoy some doggy games. He likes latex so much, that I just put this rubber dog mask from Blackstyle on him, which everyone in Berlin seems to own, and sometimes a plug with a tail in the butt and the doggie is ready. The tail not only looks „cute“, but it also signals to me when Olaf is interested in something or when he is having fun, because then he instinctively moves his butt and the tail wiggles beautifully.
Between you and me: Please get knee pads, You’ll be motivated in the beginning and run way too fast, then your knees will hurt – especially when you just got going. Of course, you can run on all fours, but your knees will still be stressed all the time.
With our sessions, it’s not always clear what we’re going to do because we see each other so often. He stands in front of me and says with a shy smile, „Let’s woof.“ I can clearly feel how much he enjoys turning into a dog. He’s more of a cuddler – and less of a sexual type. Just petting him and making him feel that he’s mine – that he belongs to me – means a lot more to him than an ejaculation he’s triggered with me.
And in fact, these feelings can be expressed particularly well through dogplay. Why is that? Because we talk to (our) animals much more easily and clearly. You become „something else“ when you put on the dog mask: away from the complicated personality, with its neuroses and fears, as well as its strengths, complex needs and sometimes imposing mental images, into a world where you can simply be something simpler, reduced to the basic instincts that we still have in common with the animal world. And this is really pleasant because we humans are always trying to understand our environment and ourselves in all our complexity – but it takes effort. As a dog, you don’t need that, you can just let your basic instincts run free, with your master’s attention, of course.
If I compare all the human dogs that I have had on the leash, I can say that I can determine the personality from a simple walk with the dog. Instinctively, your human dog wants to express himself in other ways. Some will shyly tap around, others will move as little as possible and observe, while others will romp around like crazy and feel „pudelwohl“, which is a German phrase to say „content as a dog“.
Of course, I throw the stick and he brings it back. He also sits up and begs for me, which is a paradox for a human dog, but it excites me in a positive way. Let’s focus on body language, too: Olaf lowers his head when he wants to be cute and submissive or he rears up when he sees other dogs. Well, actually he’s not a real „rebel“ – I still have to train him for that, because in his personality he is rather the dear golden retriever than a German shepherd. But I also want to go out with him sometimes… I admit to being an exhibitionist. So now he has to learn to listen to his master.
Olaf’s love for petplay
„Olaf, lie down!“ My dog lies well on its side. „Olaf, sit up and beg!“ He takes on this typical pose in no time at all and his hands dangle very sweetly. „I think he’ll have to get dog gloves soon,“ I think to myself. „Olaf, watch it!“ And now he remains in an observing position: the tail in the butt no longer wobbles. „Olaf, more!“ I say in a very strict tone – his posture stiffens and he looks around very attentively. I’m satisfied and caress him. That is his highlight. When scratched, he rubs against me while stroking.
Still not convinced about dogplay? Well, think about it: When someone praises you today, don’t you inevitably ask yourself: „Why is he doing that?“, „Did he mean it?“, „Is he sucking up because he wants this or that?“, or even: „I know that I have a nice cock, what do you think of my eyes, boy?
In dogplay, when you bring me a stick and I thought it was really cute, I’ll stroke your head. Don’t worry if I say „Off“ to you because I want to talk nicely to the other master, because that’s what you do with dogs. They have to be quiet sometimes and they know it.
I don’t really see Olaf as a human anymore, but I also feel like he’s in a different role. Our language has become kind of binary now, and once the feeling for the roles is really established, it’s like we don’t need to play a lot, we can just lie there together. I’m with a very loyal dog who has proven his loyalty to me, and he’s close to his master, where he feels that his master enjoys his cuddles.
But I also want to take my dog out for a walk – to show him off to the others, and I know that my dog also likes to show off. The next post will be about exhibitionism because we are going out together…